Dating and sex rules
To me, sex is like basketball: a pleasurable activity you can do with alone or with others, with varying degrees of formality. After four years with an exclusive, committed partner, they usually know at least four to six things that you reliably doing. You’re unafraid to say “one inch to the left.” But sex with the same person, with whom you currently have a minor standoff going over who’s going to call the landlord about the water spot in the ceiling in the kitchen, can also become rote in a way casual sex cannot. None of this hemming and hawing about how it feels better without one—if that’s you, then do yourself a favor and buy some better ones.
(I mean, you don’t get a say on what your partner wears when you’re dating, either). Just be cool, put in a moderate amount of effort, and have fun.
The amenities don’t need to be expensive or luxurious—you’re not opening a spa—but you definitely want your guests to feel comfortable. Casual sex, like a delicate mousse, is deceptively complex to get right, easily ruined by over-mixing, and—most importantly—best enjoyed when it’s light and fluffy.