That “historical research” doesn’t excuse you or your mate’s behavior; it just helps you understand the setting in which it occurred.
Knowing your family heritage can help you change it in your generation so that you do not pass it on to your kids.
As a result, Stuart developed an entirely new respect for her.
When Angela chose to forgive her husband, Stuart knew it was for real this time, and he could therefore begin to grieve his losses.
Angela claimed that she had forgiven her wayward husband, but I had a hunch that hers had been a surface–only forgiveness and that her depression was the result of buried feelings of hostility toward her unfaithful husband.
After the affair Angela determined to go on as though nothing happened and be a “hero of God’s grace.” She kept a stiff upper lip in their church circle and was viewed as a paragon of virtue.
But the best part is that they know for certain that they have forgiven one another.
At the end of that long and arduous process, they were able to stand before the congregation and share their testimony of healing without shame.
Remember, forgiveness is a process; all the characteristics of genuine forgiveness will not always be present, but they should become increasingly apparent along the journey.